Post Power Syndrome.....? Hmmmm

Think about this; have you ever find your grand pa or grand ma or your father or mother different than she/he used to be? Usually they talked to you nicely and have a joke with you and laugh with you. But after his/her retirement, they become very fierce to you, angry to anybody. Well, shortly, they are sensible and always talking about their past.

Well, if you find this case around your family or your neighborhood, please check whether they are getting Post Power Syndrome or just mood disorder :-)

So, let's observe them whether they are typically in this syndrome.


There are three part of the symptoms of Post Power Syndrome;

1. Physically; look older, haggard, the body look weak, and easy to get sick
2. Emotionally; sensible, irritable, moody, and they like people around them follow what they order. In this case, he/she act like they are a boss. 
3. Behavioral Symptom; being very quiet, shy and always talk about their success life in the past, like to against another opinion, criticize another people, show anger and disappointment in the public and families.

What will be happen if Post Power Syndrome cannot be release from a person?

1. psychosomatic
2. depression
3. mental disorders
4. sudden death

When we found out what will be happen to Post Power Syndrome which did not treat, I think people should go to psychologist or psychiatrist to seek for help. Or, you can do self treatment for yourself. It is; being positively in face the fact of life. Give thanks to what we have. Or you better look for a place to self-actualization such as, if you were a manager, why don't you open a business to run. And if it is happen to your family, why don't you support them by understanding their condition that they are different than they were. It will help them to cope. 

Then what type of personality who are easy to get Post Power Syndrome?

1. among those who love to be appreciated and respected by others,
2.  among those who are demanding that the demand is always obeyed, 
3. like to feel superior to others
4. like to be served. 
5. The people who put their lives on the meaning of certain prestige positions
6. people who assume position, title, rank, or power it is everything or is very meaningful in his life. 
7.  people with a high need of power. 
8. those who are requires the recognition of others, through his position he feels "safe".

FIRST SCHOOL CAN BE FRIGHTENING

The school will start again and your son/daughter will start their first school. Maybe your children are happy to hear that they will go to school - as many children do - but the first school can be very frightening. Actually, not children who are afraid to go to school, but usually parents do.

Many parents asked the same questions to teachers, counselors or friends who have children at the same school. It doesn't mean that the parents do not understand about the questions itself, but it is just because they worry so much about their children. 

Mostly, parents afraid that their children will cry in their first school days. They are afraid if their children cannot stand still and mess around and so on and so on. 

Worrying things that don't exist is useless. So, why don't we prepare our children to make sure that they are not making us worry when they go to school. Hopefully these tips will help you to solve your " school frightening problems"

Make sure that your children are;

1. able to listen to instructions and able to concentration in a needed situation.
2. able to sit nicely in a needed situation
3. able to use toilet, including flash it and wash hands
4. able to hold pencil and crayon
5. able to answer and asking questions
6. understanding of sharing concept
7. able to solve the problem when they are angry or frustrated without aggressiveness
8. able to doing a simple task like tidy her/his bag etc
9. able to play simple puzzle
10. try to cut simple shape with special scissors for children
11. able to run, jumping, and climb
12. able to wear her/his jacket and Velcro shoes
13. able to mention their full name and nickname, also able to telling their age
14. able to sing rhymes and simple children songs
15. able to retell a story that they know

By practice those things above, I am sure you can sleep well to night. There are still couples months to prepare your first school of your 4 years old children. So, you would rather practice them now. Good Luck Moms!

MOM vs TANTRUM

Tantrum is always become a stressing problem for parents. Tantrum itself such an attitude like screaming, cries, throwing things, and also rolled over on the ground. Cause of tantrum can be varied; such as dressing - in this case a child refuse to wear such a dress, such as her/his uniform or some party dress, or even when you go for shopping with your son or daughter and they ask for something such as candy but you do not allow them to have it, a child can be very tantrum because of it.

So, how would you feel when your children tantrum in front of public? She/he screams, cries, and all of her/his angry expression, and she/he does that only to get your attention. I am sure you will be shy and stress meet this condition. But, talking to children with tantrum like this is useless. They do not listen to what you said or what you do.

However, tantrum is not always negative. It means that children need tantrum. It is because with tantrum will teach them about feeling. They can show how angry they are with the condition or situation that they don't like. Tantrum also give you a chance to teach them how to solve a frustrating problem of her/him. Also, you can teach them that all problem can be handle, so nothing to worry about that. Then what should to do to help children with tantrum? See these tips below;

1. When your children in tantrum, don't give more comments to them. Talk to them after they finish tantrum is the best way. In this situation, we can discuss what things are allow and what things are not allow. When we talk to children with tantrum, they will not copy any word we said.
2. Give up to child with tantrum and give them reward or try is just giving us short solution, children will recognize it as a goal of tantrum. It means that children will use tantrum as "weapon" to get what they want. So, in the future, you will meet more and more tantrum attitude. 
3. When you angry and you being rude to them, he/she will learn that they cannot control their emotion safely and will make them confuse to her/his own feeling.

MY CHILD CAN'T TALK

As parents, we will be worry when our 3 years children can't talk yet. Maybe they can talk but sometimes they do not say it clearly or maybe they difficult to spell "k, t, sh, z and v". Usually, even though our children cannot talk fluently, we still can understand the word they said, However, we need to help them to speak better.

Check this out for tips to help your children speak better;

1. When your children are misspelling, don't correct them explicitly, but you can say it in the correct spelling. Such as when your child said "tak" for "truck" you can say, "Oh... do you you mean truck?"
2. Keep talking to her/him and make more eye contact.
3. When speak to her/him, use the normal language and don't use children language, such as, she/he usually said "dat" for telling "duck" so, when you want to talk about "duck" use the exact pronunciation "duck" not "dat"
4. Talk about emotion and mood; you can use story books. Tell them what the role feels, such as story about girl who lost the teddy bear, you can tell her/him how sad she is.
5. Play with letters
6. Singing the rhymes and kids songs
7. Playing role with dolls

ACTIVITIES FOR YOUR 3 YEARS CHILDREN

Moms, are you searching toys or activities for you 3 years old children? Maybe you think about an expensive toy with more complicated explanation that is explained by the sales promotion will make your children smart.

But don't you know Moms, that the more difficult activities or toys for your children will make them stop using their imagination. It means, that the children will not get any advantage from the toys or activities you gave.

Your 3 years old children like to play the toys in different way than it supposed to be played. Such example, they like to use your basket as their bed or as their chair. Shortly, create a fun games for themselves is a part of their thinking creatively ability and problem solving ability. So, let them play freely as long as they do not do any destructive activities or harm themselves.

Then, what kind of toys or activities that might help them to think creatively? Bellow some tips that you can try for them;

1. Puzzle; we can find many puzzle every where with many types and many pictures. Because your children is just a 3 years boy/girl, then choose a simple picture for them
2. Books; books can help your children to improve their speech abilities. 
3. Block Toys; building toy that is usually made from wood or plastic will improve the creativity of your 3 years old boy/girl, also will pump out their imagination and even teach them about math and physics.
4. Play dough; it can help your 3 years old boy/girl think creatively also it is fun. 
5. Drawing and Painting; it can improve your child creativity and also improve their motor skill. 
6. Play role
7. Memory game.

Furthermore, if you want to teach your child about concept of number, you can teach them while you play with them; these tips hopefully help you to give your 3 years old child meaningfully activities;

1. give her/him dolls or animals toys or fruits toy or cars toy, then you can say, "one for you and one for me", or "two for you and two for me" and etc
2. you can count while tidy the toys together
3. showing them number around you like number of bus or number of house
4. read rhyme of children that is using numbers
5. use play dough; make number and help them memorize the number you made.
6. play domino with your child. 

LET'S TALK ABOUT AUTISM

What is autism?

Nowadays, autism become fame in developmental disorder. But, many people miss understand about autism. Many parents who children with autism always asking about some question like what is autism? Can autism be cured? Can they live like a normal child? Are they stupid? What are the symptom? etc.

Based on the question that often exist, so it will be my first preface on our discussion to talk about what is autism. Autism is a neurological disorder. It means that you born with it and live with it. It affects the brain develop.

Autism is one of five Pervasive Development Disorder (PDDs) that are categorized as;

1. Autism
2. Asperger's Syndrome
3. Childhood disintegrative disorder
4. Rett disorder
5. Pervasive Developmental Disorder not Otherwise Specified (PDD-NOS)

Can autism be cured?

NO! Autism is not an illness, so, it can't be cured. However, people with autism can live productively. So, that's why they need early intervention. Early intervention is important for them, because it will help them to learn and prosper in life and carry on a normal and productive life. However, for some people with autism, they require lifelong help with daily living activities.

Are Children with Autism Stupid?

NO! Children with autism just like another normal children. Some of them have normal IQ's, some of them moderate mental retardation, but some of them have higher than average - here they seem do not have autism.

What are the Symptoms?

These are ten symptoms of Autism;

1. Failure to respond their name; they are not deaf, but looks like cannot hear when people call their name.
2. Avoidance of eye contact; it shown in baby, but in infant, it shown that it doesn't want to be cuddled or held.
3. unresponsiveness; it shown that the children do not recognize someone around them or do not want to interact with people around them
4. Obsession with specific object or things; they will focused intensively with one object or thing, and when another people try to take it from him/her, she/he will be very angry
5. Focusing in details and blocking out all else; such example, he pays attention to the spinning wheels on a toy but does not pay attention to whole cars.
6. Repetitive action or activities; it shown that the children doing a routine activity or action.
7. Watching the same videos over and over again.
8. Repetitive movement
9. Self injury behavior
10. Delayed speech.

DEAL WITH FEAR OF SEPARATION ON 3 YEARS OLD CHILDREN

Many moms asked me how to deal with fear of separation of their young children. Mostly, Moms afraid that these 3 years children will have difficulty to start their first day at school. This question is make sense as we can find many young children cry in their first day of school, because they fear with separation with their parents. Some children will easily to adapt within few days or even ready for this separation, however, some children will need months to adapt. 

Moms, even though your 3 years children is an independent children, however, they still need you to stay around. We can see that these 3 years children like to run for playing then back again to you. In this stage, your control to them is crucial because of their understanding about danger are minim and they will confused when they cannot find you around. Thus, they are afraid of being separate with you. However, you still can help to face this separation.

Then what should we do to deal with our children fear of separation? Well, if you plan that you will deliver your young children to their first school, you would rather give practice to your young children. Bellow, "some exercise" tips to deal with fear of separation of your young children;

1. explain her/him that you will back to her/him, give her a kiss and hug, then go peacefully. If you wait her/him cry, it will make them getting worried and you will also worry her/him too.
2. if your young children have favorite toys, let him/her hold it to create her/him comfort.
3. if you worried about her/him after you left, you can contact the care giver a few minutes after to make sure.
4. if your young children insisted to do not let you go, give them a practice. First, left her/him for 20 minutes, then you back again. After that, add the time. It will give them practice and make them believe that you will always back for her/him. 

Reference:

Carol Cooper, Claire Halsey, Su Laurent, Karren Sullivan, 2008, Your Child Year by Year, A Dorling Kindersley Book, England.